How I Wish To Raise My Son!!

Recently I read a wonderful article about Girl child and how we as society should raise them and give them all the equal opportunities.

I feel today at this point of time it's very important to nurture and prepare our children in  such a way that more than stressing on girl of boy we should first raise them as a sensible,responsible and strong person.
At the same time they should also understand human values.

I am a mother of two boys and  i really don't  wish to raise them in a stereotype way ,I want to take efforts and make them understand most important things in life. I want them to know that woman is not an object but a person and  should be respected always . They should know how to wipe others tears, they should have epathy towards others emotions. I want them to know that being strong doesn't mean a person who never cries , it means it's ok to shed tears sometimes and pour your heart out than suffocating inside .

I want to them to wear and enjoy whatever colours  they like.

My son loves Pink colour so I try to buy pink stuff for him whenever I get. Colours  can never define any gender it's all about ones choice. And it's very important to give them freedom in selecting their own stuff , be it their water bottle,pencil box or colour of their room curtains  ask them how they want it to be.

I want to give cooking lessons to my son's because  cooking is not only a female's domain but because it is a skill which can never go waste in life. I feel nowdays most women are working  and are independent  so boys should atleast have basic knowledge of cooking so that they dont have to depend on others and if need arises can cook and fill their stomach .

I want to tell them that it's ok to play in mud and enjoy rains while getting  drenched in it . I want  them to learn that life is precious and we should never compare our life with others. Each person has own battles to deal with which we dont know. So its important to live our life fullest and try to find  happiness in each and everything around us .Life is all about simple things after all.

I wish to teach my son the value of adjustment in life. Every relationship on this earth thrives on love ,respect and little adjustments on the part of various  people involved in it. As a person its not just woman's sole responsibility to make compromises for the sake of relationship. So they should be ready to take the responsibilities and share burdens happily. 

I will  teach my sons to accept failures. Their participation and effort to achieve something will also be applauded in the same way if not more than their first position. I want them  to be independent,select the profession of their choice and work hard to achieve their own goals .

I want them to get married to the girls of their own choice. I really don't want them to become our  retirement package or old age stick . I want them to feel that their parents are always with them no matter what comes in their lives . I want to give them warmth of the nest which they fondly call "home "till the time I m alive, other than moving in their home and expecting them to take care of me all the time . Being their mother was certainly my choice and my decision for that I don't want to emotionally blackmail them for the sacrifices I make everyday for them.

I just want them to know  and remember that their mom is the person who loves them most in the whole world and this love will always be unconditional and without any expectations!!